Do you ever feel like you are just not enough?
Not educated enough? Not skilled enough? Not clever enough?
Yesterday, I was on a call with a client… and on the call she told me she had been trying so hard to keep up with her favorite influencers on social media.
The problem was, every time she’d scroll through their posts, she immediately felt she didn’t have the tools, skills, and drive to make her vision a reality.
As she told her story, I remember feeling my heart pound and my mind race.. because I knew exactly how she felt.
For years, I was caught in comparison mode, trying to be something other than myself.
I never felt like I was enough.
In the beginning of my business, I fell into the web of online influencers, and it took me years undo all the beliefs that led me to feel I was not smart (driven, skinny, motivated, etc) enough to be successful in the online space.
It’s okay that it took me time to figure out who I wanted to work with and exactly the type of work I wanted to be doing…
It would have taken A LOT less time if I applied a few powerful tools that I now use in my business and personal development practice almost every day.
Here they are…
1. Practice listening to your body
We have been conditioned to live in our heads. We’re taught to “think” our way through life. We’re taught to process our experiences with our brains.
Using our minds isn’t bad, but don’t forget that your body is a POWERFUL vehicle for processing information.
Pay attention to the way your body reacts in situations. How does it react when you connect with new people? How does it react when you’re scrolling through social posts?
Here’s a practice I love doing that’ll connect you more deeply with your body.
When you feel something a sensation in your body, get curious and ask yourself, “Why am I feeling this way?
*** For those who have experienced intense trauma, getting into the body can be difficult sometimes. If you have a trauma response when you try to get into your body, be gentle with yourself. And if possible, seek support from a trauma-informed somatic practitioner.
2. Don’t compare yourself to people on social media
First of all social media is just a highlight reel. Remember that on social, we only see a snapshot of someone’s entire life. Please don’t compare yourself to someone based on one Facebook post or their instagram feed.
Your medicine + message comes from being yourself, not from being someone else.
3. Stop putting other people on pedestals
No one is perfect. Literally, no one. We are all works in progress. And when you put someone on a pedestal…
You not only dehumanize them, but you set yourself up for disappointment.
Instead of putting someone on a pedestal, acknowledge that they are human, and they have worked hard to get where they are.
You might be surprised to know that the gap between where you are and where they are isn’t that big.
4. Acknowledge that progress is not linear
You might not feel like you’re where you want to be right now, but that could change in an instant. Keep working to bring that big mission to life.
And when you feel like giving up, remind yourself that “you didn’t come this far, just to come this far.” There is more growth, magic, and power for you just around the corner.
5. Surround yourself with a community who believes in you
You know that saying, “It takes a village?” There’s a reason why it’s been passed down for generations.
You were never meant to face all of life’s obstacles and challenges on your own.
You might have heard me say “Independence is a myth.” I stand by that statement. We are interdependent beings. If we try to handle all of our problems alone we lose connection with our community.
Don’t lose connection. Instead, build and maintain relationships with folks who lift you up.
Not sure where to start?
Join a support group. Schedule a weekly call with a friend. Find a biz buddy.
Most importantly, remember that you are a divine work in progress.
And it is enough to be just that.
Love + Liberation
Lauren Elizabeth